Love Is Not Found In Relationships

This will be a challenging heading for most if not all people.  The reality of love, is that you are what you are seeking.  The love you feel comes from you not the other.  Had you asked me a few years ago if the above statement was true I would have said that it was not true recounting the many relationships I had where I found and felt love. Today I am seeing that I am love and I made the decision to love. I am beginning to understand real love as I am falling in love with life, it is an extraordinary feeling.

Here is some wise words from a spiritual peacemaker.

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Indeed, beloved friends, Surrender is like the petals of the flower. They emerge in their own time. And one cannot necessarily see the causal connection of all that has gone before with the sweet nectar of perfect remembrance: the flowering of the soul that is no longer fearful and abides in the world – awake, in peace, open – that through which the flow of Grace descends to touch the world. Surrender flowers from the only three things you can do: Desire, Intend, Allow. Allow purification to occur. Be willing to visit every dark corner of the mind. For, in Truth, it is not necessary to seek for Love, for Love already embraces you. But it is necessary to seek for what is false:

Where am I fooling myself?

Where am I committed to my image in the world?

Where am I committed to thinking for myself because

underneath I don’t truly trust that God loves me?

Where am I lying to myself or to others?

Where am I in denial?

Where do I need to understand what projection is?

Where do I need to understand more deeply how the

viciousness of the ego works within my own mind?

Where am I pointing a finger outside of myself?

Where am I denying my fear?

Where am I demanding that the world show up as I

would have it, instead of surrendering to the structuring of the world in the Hands of the Holy Spirit that serves entirely my healing, my growth,

my maturing into true responsibility?

Indeed, beloved friends, in The Way of Knowing, it is absolutely required that you pause often and look around you and say:

I abide in the perfection of a loving universe.

Nothing can occur by accident.

And where I am in this moment

must be the perfect place for me to be.

How can I find the doorway

to stillness within – now?

Where within me can I rest, in peace,

and ask the Holy Spirit’s guidance?

Where, in this moment, am I clinging

to another or to a thing?

Where am I looking upon

another person or another thing in this universe,

claiming it is my possession?

For what you do not give to be shared that you say you have loved, rest assured, beloved friend, in that moment, you are in the viciousness of specialness. The egoic mind believes that if it shares what it has, it loses. Therefore, in your world, when you perceive that someone or something has brought you a great source of comfort and love, and even security, to see that being shared elsewhere activates the fear of loss within the ego. Much like many of you might remember when you were teenagers, and you began “going” with a certain boy or certain girl in the seventh grade, and then two weeks later, they decided to “go” with someone else. Oh, how crushing it was, for the source of your love has been stripped from you! Never will you enjoy the smell of a flower again. Never will food taste good. There could surely be no one else in this universe that could provide you this great source of love and attention! Such is the immaturity of the child. Such the immaturity of many “children” who live in fifty-year-old bodies!

For, beloved friends, there is no one and no created thing – and the body-mind is just a created thing – that can be your source for Love. Relationship was never meant to be a device for finding sources for Love. Relationships were designed to be holy. And in holy relationship, two have come together – not to get, but to create out of loving devotion to the Grace that has awakened and purified their mind and hearts to the realization that only Love is Real, that there is no such thing as loss, and only Love is worthy to be celebrated. In Perfect Love, there is no possessiveness. In Perfect Love, there is perfect allowing. In Perfect Love – guess what? There isn’t even you! There is only God loving through you!

Therefore, indeed, beloved friends, look around your very home. Is there an object that you could not see yourself giving up? If you truly want to hasten your awakening, go and give it away. For in the end, all that you believe you possess must be given away. And what you believe you possess is the right to possessiveness, the right to be right. When all things created as a substitute for the Reality of God have been rescinded or surrendered, then indeed, the flower has emerged, and the sweet fragrance blesses everyone.