How The Covert Narcissist Parent Controls a Family Through Pain

This is an interesting video (below) and I sense this woman is speaking through her experience.  This could be one of the reasons why there are alienated parents and children.  This detached form of control, entitlement and pain is a perspective where the family fractures.  Equality in the home is essential for children to be functional, healthy and happy.  Parents have to be able to sit down and face the issues between them.  If there are behaviours that are toxic they must sit and talk for the children, if nothing else.  

The narcissist can be a man or woman.  I have witnessed female narcissists so am very aware of how this plays out.  The female type is a masculine feminine that like to control the other party through pain. The male narcissist may be overt or covert but the underlying traits are – low empathy, dominance, control and detachment.  I believe IT technology can enhance this or a grandparent who exhibited the same behaviour.  It can be passed on genetically.  I have seen this as well where it is evident the same traits expressing in family members.  Obviously this is not a healthy environment for children.  I don’t think it is an easy situation for anyone going through.  My inner feeling is that this is a extensive issue in our society given people do not know how to communicate, empathise or model democratic and caring behaviours in the home.  I feel deeply for people caught in this.  Very painful and challenging. Yet as I say in my videos  it is to focus on what we learn that is key.  Self love moves us in directions that ensure safety, security and kindness.

It is a subject that is in the public interest and I would love to see conversations embraced with love and respect for the love of children.

Mohandas Gandhi

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

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