Transform Prostitution into Spiritual Awakening
I watched a film last night where a man had just come out of prison and was seeking out his old boss. He managed to get a job driving. To his surprise he was driving a brown skilled woman who was working as a prostitute. I call her brown skinned as I’ve never seen a black person. She was beautiful and he was a short Londoner and initially there was tension between them. He didn’t like taking orders from her and took offense when she didn’t like the clothes he had bought. He saw her as a black tart. She saw him as an obnoxious driver. She would be classified crudely as a high class haw or a high class prostitute. Either way she is having sex for money. That is how society would see her.
I find the whole language around prostitution interesting as a woman. Whilst this man didn’t like her, she was a ‘haw’, as he started to have feelings towards her he started to see her as a ‘lady’. In truth she didn’t change, he did, which shows it was he who was the one who projected his self dislike onto her. It made me reflect on the inner emotions of men and how they see and label women. If they see a woman giving sex for money they indicate she is cheap, she is worthless and they feel they can do what they want, without caring how she feels. After all it is a transaction in their mind. Yet in truth the man who feels drawn to attend a brothel or pick a woman off the street is the one with the need and he goes to this person because he can’t find a woman that wants to have sex with him, he is off his wife or he simply is following base sexual urges and needs to satisfy himself. As you feel your way through this landscape you see it is he who is empty, it is he who pays for what he can’t get for free and it is he that doesn’t receive the love that I suspect deep down he craves. I have to focus on he here as most women don’t go to male prostitutes. That is not to say they are satisfied, I suspect many are not but they tend to redirect their sexual energy. I am sure there are issues there but the up front in your face prostitution is clearly a male game across the world.
Some regard sexuality as just a sexual release when they are in their base and sacral chakras. These are the bottom two centres located as energy centres near the base of the spine and just below the navel. The chakras cannot be seen but have been known for thousands of years by the Asian and Indus cultures. The second chakra is often referred to as the belly or sacral chakra. It is located two inches below the navel and is rooted into the spine. This center holds the basic needs for sexuality, creativity, intuition, and self-worth.
Here is a picture of the chakra system. You can visit my blog https://wpas.worldpeacefull.com/2012/04/chakra-wheels-flowering-awareness/ to learn more.
Paramhans Swami Maheshwarananda describes a chakra as:[4]
…[a] powerhouse in the way it generates and stores energy, with the energy from cosmos pulled in more strongly at these points. The main nadis, Ida, Pingala and Shushumna (sympathetic, parasympathetic, and central nervous system) run along the spinal column in a curved path and cross one another several times. At the points of intersection they form strong energy centers known as chakras. In the human body there are three types of energy centers. The lower or animal chakras are located in the region between the toes and the pelvic region indicating our evolutionary origins in the animal kingdom. The human chakras lie along the spinal column. Finally, the higher or divine Chakras are found between the top of the spine and the crown of the head.
So when I look at prostitution it is clear that the chakras in this region are over-active. I would sense in the typical case of men there is a sense of low self worth. This chakra is overactive. From a psychological perspective rather than deal with his sexual issues and low self esteem he goes to a prostitute to feel himself again. He prefers no emotional attachment, just release. He feels relief when he releases and yet his self worth does not improve, as deep down he knows he used this person and what he really desires is never satisfied. So his unhappiness translates into his attitude as he looks at this woman making her out to be less than him and cheap, when he is truly feeling this about himself.
The men involved in racketeering in prostitution are the ones that don’t like themselves at all and use the women for financial gain. They are indeed prostituting themselves – their morals, diminishing their own value for money. Deep beneath their bravado and violence is a deep insecurity and immaturity (bullying) that craves money to satisfy their needs and to pump up their sense of success and identity. If they make lots of money then they have a sense of status and wealth, yet they lose their sense of love and deep emotional connection to other human beings. This is the loss of their real wealth (inner values) that makes them feel proud to be men. They would have to disconnect their emotions to allow women to be abused by lines of men, they would have to feel nothing for the woman’s predicament and they would see how empty her eyes are as she is constantly used and abused. They would have to put her down and demonise her to validate the violence they are inflicting and calling it business. She also knows there is no love for her and her body is a commodity to be used by others with no respect. Similar to their pimp or brothel owner, they have lost their sense of self love and respect. The men who come also feel this but justify that they are just feeling a need and others are offering to fulfill it. Energetically they are all powerless people and this is what holds them in the victim triangle. They are all victims. Until they change their thinking, they will stay there. If they change their thoughts and start to question themselves, their world will change. If they truly want peace and happiness they have to try and imagine that is possible. For life responds to all thoughts. Fate is an acronym for – from all thoughts everywhere. Our thoughts are powerful, if we believe we are ‘shit’ then that is how we treat ourselves, if we believe we have value then something will change. The problem here is those who have been abused all their lives haven’t had the experience of love or respect, so they can’t imagine it. That is the trap.
There is another area that most don’t realise energetically they mix. Their sexual energies are connecting and their energy fields mixing. So when you experience that type of unloving sex you are taking on the energies in the person’s aura and energy bodies. If there is much trauma and sadness there it transfers during the intimacy of sexual intercourse. Many don’t know this but sexuality was never meant for using people, it was designed for loving expression, relating intimately and creating the next generation. Yet it is interesting to see sex and pornography industries distort this most magnificent intimacy and reduce it to servicing people with no feeling whatsoever. All lose in this type of arrangement and the beauty of men and women is distorted as sexual fantasy. Cruelty and disconnection enter where love would open up as a flower. There is no comparison to true loving intimacy.
What is really happening when sexuality comes from the heart chakra and crown chakra is that you connect to the divine as universal love, that is why when falling in love, you feel yourself as one with the other. You can no longer see where one ends and the other begins. You see yourself as the other and there is nothing but beauty, peace, love and joy expressed in the ecstacy of loving respectful union. You can feel even in these sentences the beauty of sexuality when utilised as an expression of love as compared to using sexuality as an expression of release and greed. I think of Rumi the famous Persian poet here and all his poetry on love. There is no comparison and the compatiability between men and women turns into animosity and hatred. So sad to see when we are here to be each others keepers and lovers.
In the movie I saw the woman selling sex asked the driver to take her to the street in a seedy part of London to find another woman. The driver was imagining his daughter and that these women were someone’s daughter, mother etc. How many people think of prostitutes as someone’s sister, daughter or mother? How many see the woman who is desperately seeking to make a living but cannot get a regular job or is the subject of sexual abuse as a child, and it is all she knows. How many think about what drives women into prostitution. I know in Afghanistan, in a society with the morality police run by the Taliban, they have women turning to prostitution to feed their children. Which is the greatest immorality murdering people to win power, raping women and leaving them destitute or prostitution to feed children? One can easily see the distorted perceptions. I am sure god is love and god does not condone murder or leave women and children without mercy, it is humans that do that.
I met a young woman the other day here in Melbourne who told me she had been raped by her father who was a pastor (religious man). She said over the years she had been treated badly by many many men. I could see the crease between her eyebrows which showed me emotional strain. I sat there deeply listening to this teacher inform me about living a life filled with abuse. I invited her to sit with me and my friend. She then said her partner was around. This very handsome guy turned up and quickly told us he was a youth pastor. He said he loved her and she showed me her ring. I found out he was her first love and she was terrified of losing him. She had dark friends on the streets who had raped him. He told us about this saying she had set him up. I had no idea why that had happened given the love, but the confusion in her mind was obvious. She didn’t know moral codes, or the idea of self love or respect. She had only known abuse. She felt love for the first time and he felt strongly to be there for her. He told us he had been on heroin, another broken heart I felt. He said she wanted to try and he tried to not let her but she did so anyway. After a while the two of them made a decision to get off heroin and move from Sydney to Melbourne get a place and try and have a life together. I spoke loving and gentle words to both of them and I told her she was beautiful. She didn’t think so as her self esteem was so shot. She had lived in her base chakra and her sacral (sexual) chakra and had not experienced the higher energy centres. This man became a person who helped her feel her heart again and that love saved her life and gave her hope. They hugged in front of us and I wondered how this tortured young couple are going to deal with the complexities of relationship when both of them had abused their bodies and knew nothing of boundaries. Yet I sent them love and peace in my own way and was grateful that life had sent me these people so that I could learn more about what is not peace and perhaps inspire them somewhat.
I have been to brothel strips in Amsterdam with my partner to see what it is like. I never, as a woman, feel comfortable and in fact I do feel deep disgust as I know it is not loving the woman. I feel pain when I see it but I believe in facing the darker side of life and trying to understand why this happens and how women and men get drawn into loveless connections. I have been to Kings Cross in Sydney and see the prostitutes on the streets and when living in St Kilda in Melbourne I saw them on the street. I’ve seen them all over the world. I recall hearing about them in Bangkok and some of my Rotary Peace and Conflict Studies colleagues went to Pat Pong to see the prostitution. It is a tourist destination which I find very interesting as a choice. Nonetheless one of my friends was muslim and had not had sex herself. She went to learn. She said it was absolutely shocking for her. She said she saw young women naked and their eyes were dead. I found myself feeling deeply disturbed on learning this. She was absolutely horrified at how women were treated. On the Rotary Peace and Conflict Studies Program we were taken to the Camillian Center which is a HIV centre in Southern Thailand. We were given a talk by 3 prostitutes – high and low class – the difference being that one prostitute (low class) wears an internal condom and is basically servicing men one after the other. It would be a blur and I can feel my heart sink typing this. She was just used as a place for men to ejaculate. No love, no contact, very empty. The other attached some sort of value to her high class work and was given more money, she wore nice clothes and also escorted. They opened up a world to us of the brothels in Thailand and it was deeply disturbing to me as a woman. I couldn’t imagine being in their world and I could easily see how a woman would want to suicide. I was told most of them go into prostitution because they have to support their families. So it is for financial reason. I was to discover that the industry started due to multinational companies setting up in Thailand and ex-pats wanting sex. So the western world brought this dark industry to Thailand. At the Camillian Centre Father Giovani, an Italian Catholic priest was trying to teach men how to put a condom on in the dark. He had a wooden box with two holes at the top. He called our participant who was a Calipha (muslim mullah) to put his hands in the box. He felt a phalick object in the shape of a penis and jumped. He was told it was a simulation of a penis and he was to try and put a condom on. I think the father was trying to educate the muslims to use them. Of course the irony was he being Catholic and their tradition of not using them. Clearly we were in the presence of an enlightened father. He was running a HIV clinic with 40 beds and was educating in safe sex so the prostitutes don’t die of HIV Aids. Perhaps the compassion of not catching disease influences the Catholic church that sexuality is not only a sacred act but must be disease free.
Many of my colleagues appeared uneasy about HIV I was told, so I decided to be a clown for the day and touch the patients by patting them on the back and hug them. So myself and a Sri Lankan doctor dressed up as clowns and we started in the lunch room playing with the children, jumping from table to table and playing music. The kids (all had HIV) were delighted. Note the children get it from their mothers so that is seeing prostitutes as women who get pregnant. The side most don’t want to think about. The child contracts what the mother has, even heroin addicts pass the addiction to the fetus and the child is born addicted. What a sad way to enter our world. So we can’t just label people out of our own judgements, ignorance, social conventions and projections. When you see people as people who deserve happiness, as I do as a clown, you see the true value of humanity. I undertook a workshop with the children and had them laughing and playing the clown. They jumped into the centre of the circle and did silly moves and laughed. Laughter of course is excellent for the immune system and the father did say to me he had seen some go into remission. I clowned with the former prostitutes who were dying, their bodies were skin and bone. Thankfully as a clown all I can see is the sparkle in their eyes. I played with one as I twirled my rainbow ribbon. She and I did a tug-o-war and she was thrilled. I juggled for others and sent love in my own way. I then went out on the landing and noticed as I juggled that there was no reaction. I discovered they were blind. So I started squeaking my nose and looking for my flute. I found a small child around 4 years old between her parents. I brought out my whistle that makes high and low noises. I had her little hand pull on the bottom (like a trombone) and as she pulled it down it went low and then I helped her push it up and it went high. She was so thrilled she clapped her hands, I realised she saw colour in that moment through sound. It was deeply moving for me. Laughter and joy is good for the soul.
I had an idea back in Bangkok of actually trying to run clowning workshops with prostitutes so they could connect to their inner joy and feel human again. One day if i get the chance I will do that. I want them to see their beauty and to feel happy. That is my wish for them.
I’ve never looked down on a person working as a prostitute, I see her as me and I see value and uniqueness. I look into their eyes deeply and I worry for their happiness, that is my concern. I see her imprisoned behind windows or walls through drugs, economics (poverty) or for some other desperate reason. I doubt any woman would want to have sex for money, there may be a few, but most wouldn’t.
I have seen a television program here in Australia on one prostitute who helped disabled people have sex, she did it with great compassion and love. For her it was truly a wonderful experience as she saw the innocent joy on the faces of the disabled men she went with. She loved her work and I could see she felt value in the experience she offered, it was done with dignity, honour and respect. I really loved that. My only concern would be for the disabled men falling in love with her, that can be painful, yet they at the very least can feel the joy of their manhood, done with innocence, love and purity. Any sexual act done in this way is beautiful and sanctified, in my view. Sexuality for the desire of self interest and not honouring the other provides an experience that is a lot less than what it could be. It doesn’t matter whether it is in marriage or a business transaction, it is the same. Honour is honour and that means respect and love are in the bedroom. That is world peace.
I want to add here – that I saw a Cambodian boy travelling with a western man in a auto rickshaw on the street in Phnom Penh. I knew immediately it was prostitution. I was informed in India that children were being taken with the promise of education from remote areas and their parents never saw them, they ended up in the big cities like New Delhi. I was informed the same happens in Nepal. We were told about it in Cambodia by NGO’s working on the problem and human rights violations. The corruption is so great that anything goes. That is what poverty creates and increases the sense of powerlessness. I saw the disparities in Cambodia and heard the stories, I feel communities have to be able to have a say (voice) as it is their children who are the ones being taken or sold. The traffickers and organisers of these rackets are increasingly going for younger children as they don’t have HIV aids and clients want to be sure the person is clean. Imagine the undeveloped child being forced to have sex, imagine the injuries, the conditions and how they feel emotionally inside? Can you put yourself into the shoes of another who feels they have no choices and find themselves in a situation of abuse? Imagine the emotional scarring of a child who is still trying to understand the world, who he or she is and the purpose of life. His or her world is scarred and distorted by cruelty, pain and worthlessness. That is how they come to see the world ‘dog eat dog’. Only money talks. That is how prostitution keeps going as more and more people are abused and not loved with respect, as they are born for.
We have to look into sexual distortion, perversion and lack of love that drives this industry. It is not simply meeting a need but is linked to drugs, crime etc. It is a dark industry. Religions in their misunderstanding of purity have created sexual distortions in their teachings. The movie industry has played a role by scripting women as the victims and somehow the passive recipients of sexual desire where they are exploited and raped. They show graphic images that could become copycat. The industry depicts women as either the beautiful goddesses or the ugly spinster. Seldom have their feelings as women been shown or their value (apart from the physical looks) been truly revealed. I am saying on balance, I do know there are films where women are shown as intelligent etc. However, the stereotype prevails for both males and females. It is male projection largely. Women would never make films like what we see. We see increasingly dark porn available as people’s fantasies born from sexual repression and distortion becoming darker and darker as they move beyond limits. We see society losing its sense of right and wrong, morals and values. Those boundaries push outward.
Until sexuality is taught as a beautiful, connecting expression of love that should not be suppressed but expressed in healthy ways, we will have these negative industries. Children need to learn about it as it is something to be honoured, respected and as an expression of love. It is not just biology.
Years ago I tried to teach a man I met who was into swinging (sex parties) that he had no idea of what real love was. He was so emotionally disconnected and turns out he was addicted to sex. His whole experience was a projection from a porn movie, he had no idea of how it was natural and how poetry can express it and that it is of great beauty. He knew nothing of eastern tantric methods or ways of expressing sexuality as means of bringing up the kundalini energy (up the spine) to feel spiritual union. He knew nothing of its higher expression, he just used it to feel alive and continued to avoid his emotions. I was amazed to see this. I have felt the oneness and when you have had that, you will never accept anything less. Some men and women cannot imagine sex as love, as they have never experienced it. I can see this as a reality in arranged marriages where they didn’t marry for love. The children as a consequence see their loveless parents and experience the role play of men and women, but never see the love being expressed as silent communication or overtly between their parents. They are never taught what real love and sexuality is about and how to pleasure their partner, that it is not about single focused self gratification but expressions of love intermingling. How many know this? The reason I can express this is that I am living in a culture where my rights as a woman are to some degree respected and I have been exposed to other women speaking openly and liberally about these topics. I have had conversations with men but met few that actually know what real love is. Moreover, I have no embarassment about sexuality and am beginning to see how primitive we are in creating conversations about it. There are still many taboos in the world and religious barriers to exploring sexuality in a way that is healthy and open. We were created with sexuality and it was not only to procreate, it was to learn to love and honour the body temple. It was to start the human family from the heart chakra, to learn to really love one another and to learn to love and see ourselves in each other. It was for celebration and happiness. It is the sacred bond of community formed through relationships. This is where true peace begins, in love.
Prostitution is a massive industry across the world and it is a very dark one that exploits the vulnerable on both sides of the equation. As I search by Google looking for the cost of the industry I see so many advertisements which legitimise it. I can’t find the total figure but will keep looking. I will check out Human Rights Watch to see what they think about it. My guess it is a billion dollar industry and it comes in all packages and made to seem legitimate. I have just found some statistics go to http://thewhiterosemovement.com/statistics/sex . I have seen advertisements when looking up ID addresses on my blog and find myself turned off. I am not interested in seeing it at all but it is in your face. Stay up late and see the late night adverts. It is incredible how acceptable it is by all types of people. It is not seen as abuse, exploitation and sexism (power issues). It is a little like a woman wearing a short skirt deserves to be raped idea. Rather than seeing her as having a right to wear whatever she wants, men apply to her that she is asking for it to justify that action. The same can be said for full cover of women to protect them from men. Do we live in a family or do we treat others as we wouldn’t want our family members to be treated? That would be my question. It is up to men to deal with their sexuality in a healthy way. If we create societies that see sexuality as a healthy expression without suppressing it and calling it dirty, then we start to see that sexual perversion disappears.
When we disconnect our mind from our hearts that is how inhumanities exist. It is not possible when the heart is open when we see the other as our family and the feeling of love flows. We are each others keepers, and when treasured, there is nothing more beautiful. The value we give to the other, is the value we feel within ourselves. So if we wish to see love become the dominant paradigm on this planet, we have to start with learning to love ourselves (not with vanity) but with humility as part of a greater creation and cosmos. When you deeply honour people, as I have learned, you treat them with great respect, and you will never harm them in any way. That is what peace and love is expressed.
I want to post here some information from a spiritual perspective of the promise held out to women and men when they decide to live the higher life, to live fully from their love centre and to really experience true intimacy and love with a beloved. I would like to say to those people who feel sexually frustrated you can utilise this sexual release to open your spiritual centres to a higher love and life beyond your wildest dreams. I can say to you, when you connect spiritually you do not need sex to feel love or stress release. I feel for men and women this could be an answer if it could be shared and it is important to start education for children where they learn not to fear sexuality but to love and embrace themselves as sexual beings. We are not here to use people for our own gratification, yet we are living in a world that has tuned human exchanges into monetary value that is a distortion to living our lives in harmony and peace. We have developed monetary systems that accord false value and prestige opening the gates through greed and emotional disconnection to abuses in a whole array of ways. This is not who we really are, it is a lot less.
This next part of the blog will focus on real SEX- Synergistic Energy eXchange. This is the intercourse of every day life that we are doing all the time, but now we do it with presence and great love. There is no greater sex. Sex should never be repressed but that energy can be redirected in a peaceful way that honours all life. This will change the world for children. It will usher in a loving world where women and men live in balance and deep love.
When you read below notice how you are feeling and notice your energy. Scan your body and notice where you feel sensations and blockages.
A change in sexuality from base to spiritual love will indeed change the world.
http://www.personalgrowthcourses.net/stories/rengel.spiritualsex
Spiritual Sex
What is Spiritual Sex: By Peter Rengel
If you are here on the planet to become more loving and evolve spiritually, how does sexuality fit into your picture? In most spiritual traditions, sex has long been held as an obstacle to enlightenment. It has been seen as something to overcome, to transcend, or to go beyond. Vows of celibacy have often been praised as seekers try to conquer the “burdens” and “illusions” of earthly desires.
The underlying and usually unquestioned assumption is that sexual denial eventually leads to enlightenment. But isn’t enlightenment the realization that all the universe is contained within the infinite depths of your heart? And doesn’t all the universe include your sexuality? Are you supposed to cast out an integral part of your own humanity in order to become a fully-realized person?
Celibacy may occur in a natural, organic way as you embrace all aspects of your sexuality and go through to the other side. But to try to force it upon yourself can potentially be destructive. It may be a by-product of your spiritual growth, but is celibacy the ultimate goal?
Spiritual sex: Sexuality as a vehicle to spiritual growth
Sexuality can be a vehicle into spirituality rather than an obstacle to it. One way to express your desire to be reunited with God is by merging with another person through sharing your sexuality. The more deeply you feel the longing to return Home, the more deeply you may want to free your sexual nature.
The gift of your sexuality is that it is a profound modality for the ecstatic affirmation of human love. Why not include sex and God in the same breath? Why would you ever want to see them as opposing forces rather than as partners? Love includes and embraces the entire universe.
Sexual expression can be frightening. It is a movement from everyday limited levels of consciousness into an expansion of your energetic aliveness. Two activities that challenge the ego structure down to its very core are meditation and sexual expression. Both require letting go of the negative mind’s usual control over you. In meditation and in sex, in order to become the master of your mind, you must escape from its traps that keep you absorbed at the level of thought.
You achieve freedom if you can access a place inside yourself that lives only in the present tense, not trying to go anywhere or to accomplish anything. In this receptive state, love happens. Fulfillment happens. Union happens.
The mind wants you to be at its every beck and call. It becomes very threatened if you surrender into the flow of sexual energy. Therefore, it tells you that sex is wrong, or a waste of time, or an addiction, or not spiritual enough. Or it starts a fight with your lover when the possibility for a new level of sexual intimacy is available.
Listening to your mind’s negativity has you miss the bliss that can be experienced when you let go into the formless. Dive in underneath the superficial motivations of your sexual desires to the deepest stirrings within your soul.
Approach lovemaking with an attitude of reverence and awe, because untainted sex is the sharing of divine nectar. With the safety created by this underlying context, all avenues of pure sexual expression open to mutual exploration.
What is spiritual sex?
What, then, is “spiritual sex”? Take a moment to envision your ideal of two people engaged in spiritual sex. Do you picture candles and soft music? Do the lovers bow to each other, kiss one another’s feet, and then sit in the yab-yum position (cross-legged, one on the lap of the other)? Do they see the whole universe in each other’s eyes? Do they gently breathe together, barely moving? Have they transcended the trappings of hot, animal lust and the need for genital orgasms?
Whether your pictures are similar to these or not, notice if you do have any ideas of what spiritual sex is supposed to be. What experiences are spiritual lovers supposed to have?
Spiritual sex arises out of both partners’ desire for union through uninhibited self expression. What if you are here on earth not to transcend your humanness, but to revere yourself exactly as you are right now?
You are a fascinating combination of a heavenly angel/god/goddess and an earthly animal/beast. As you let go into the formless with the intention to become one with your lover, what can emerge is a dance back and forth between your god/goddess and your animal urges.
As your animal nature releases into an uninhibited expression of passion, perhaps the absolutely perfect spiritual union becomes available to you in that moment. Then, in another moment, when you are softly touching and looking into one another’s eyes, you have included your human, animal passion rather than trying to bypass it. As you surrender to your lover in devotion, you can worship both each other’s divinity and each other’s humanness.
Spiritual sex: Love and lust
Are lust and love enemies waging war against one another or friends complementing each other? When sexual energy begins to flow, you can be overpowered by your genitals if you let them sweep you into actions that you regret later. Yet you need not do anything about your sexual arousal unless your heart is in agreement with your genitals.
Sexuality can be a doorway into bliss instead of a stumbling block to be overcome. Embracing both soft, cool sex, and hot, passionate sex creates more colors with which to paint a richer self-portrait. “Spiritual sex” includes the entire spectrum from life’s rainbow, such as:
Diving into each other’s eyes.
Tenderly touching each other’s face.
Holding each other heart to heart and letting your energy flow.
Experiencing the pain of having any walls between you.
Being of total service to your lover.
Allowing yourself to play a role your partner wants you to play.
Crying as new doors open to deeper levels of intimacy.
Following your sexuality’s expression without preconceived pictures.
More magic might happen if you allow yourself to be seen as an archetype in your sexual connecting. You can become the most beautiful or handsome person in the history of humankind, or a Greek God or Goddess, or the two of you can be more in love than any couple has ever been. As you surrender into the unknown, new possibilities arise from the innocence of your creativity. The reward for your risks is a surprise that can delight you and relight your love.
Spiritual sex: A sexual doorway to transformation
Do you know the Tantric secret about orgasms? While releasing into orgasm, you can perform miracles by visualizing ways you would like life to be. You can picture anything, such as being deeply in love forever; or abundance flowing into your life; or the healing of a friend or relative; or finding relief for the hungry or homeless; or the whole world living in harmony.
What you envision at the moment of orgasm plants a seed within that level of consciousness. Because you are so open, your picture filters down through all the other layers of consciousness. It eventually shows up in your outer world. If you do not let doubt get in your way, you can actually change your everyday reality through the miracle of sexual love.
With this additional incentive, what are some ways that can you take yourself deeper into love and into sex?
By accepting your natural sexual desires.
By integrating the soft, gentle angel and the passionate animal desires.
By being curious and discovering what you want to explore next.
By being willing to ask for 100% of what you want without expectations.
By allowing the energy to freely dance between talking, emotional vulnerability, soft, cool sex, and hot, passionate sex.
Spiritual sex: Infinite possibilities and profound integration
What are the actual experiences available out of diving into intimacy? They are boundless and infinite. Donna and I feel more in love than any other couple in the history of humankind; and we want every other couple to have this same feeling.
We are head over heels in love with each other about 99% of the time. After ten years of intimate sexuality, we feel like we are at the very beginning of exploring infinite realms of relating. We have psychic experiences which indicate that we are attuned to one another in the natural way that all of us are meant to be.
We are often moved to tears of gratitude for being in each other’s lives and touching each other’s soul. We know that at least one other person on this planet accepts us completely, loves every deep, dark corner of us, and lets us feel absolutely safe. We sometimes see each other as representing all men or all women, so that we can fall in love with all human beings through each other.
Through our respect for each other, we feel a sense of reverence and awe for all human beings as gods and goddesses. We have the opportunity to worship another god/goddess disguised as a human being from a place of true surrender and devotion.
As you fully embrace your animal nature, a profound integration of Heaven and Earth emerges. As you celebrate the gift of your sexuality’s unique expression, you discover that you do not have to wait until you die in order to be liberated. As your hearts and your sex soar together, you free yourself to celebrate in Heavenly bliss while still in your body.
Note: The above essay on spiritual sex is an edited version of chapter 27 of Peter Rengel’s book titled Living Life in Love. For more on Peter, click here. For another highly inspiring essay on spiritual sex, click here. For an excellent online lesson on spiritual sexuality, click here.