Is Love Romantic or Something Higher?
It is so fascinating when you move from believing to knowing. When you start to see the invisible mask drop and you can then look at the world. I’ve been very privileged in my life to wear a mask to see the mask fall off people. Being a clown was definitely like surround sound, it allowed me to experience freedom and magic without tricks. Even Dynamo the famous magician, who is very interesting, is demonstrating an aspect of the magic by posing a silent question – is life magic or illusion? I love that people have to work out if he is for real. Yet the deeper magic is what is love, is it falling in love or is life love?
For me I am really understanding that if I withdraw love it is the pain I carry to the extend that I withdraw it, is to the extent that I am in pain. So the quote would go ‘the love I withhold is the pain I carry’. Very true. Now imagine if you could work on removing all the inner pain, making visible the suppressions, starting to really look at erroneous thoughts driving behaviours that don’t serve you. Imagine if you cleared the lies from your own inner story. The lies are – ‘I am not worthy’, ‘I am ugly’, ‘I am stupid’, ‘I talk too much’, ‘I am a failure’, ‘I am not smart enough’, ‘I am not sexy’, ‘I am powerless’, ‘I am deformed’, ‘I am poor’ and so on. None of this is true. When love is looking at you there is absolutely nothing unacceptable about you. What people don’t understand is when they are rejected in truth they are never rejected, the other is rejecting an aspect they see in you that they deny in themselves. It is never about you what people think of you. They see you how they are. That is the clue. Of course we are taught to judge by social conditioning, right and wrong narratives, conformity non conformity, media spin and other influences. These are all taught they are not innate. Anything innate that is natural will always unite people, anything that divides you can be sure is fear driven and is a created belief by humans. In truth when you start to clear the lens of your own inner glasses you see the smudges on characters were actually on your lens. When you clear that lens you will see more clearly, this is called clarity. Clarity sees what is without a story. Love is seeing the world without a story.
The beauty of true love is that you are seen. When someone really sees you they love you. When they see you that means they see themselves and accept themselves completely. So the inner lens has no distortions on it. That is, when people really believe what they see in their world is true, they see it. What they don’t know is they are seeing the world through a filter that is not clear. Only love is real.
How does love truly feel? It feels peaceful, no resistance, celebrating, joyful, happy and unlimited. That is the potential awaiting humanity when it remembers true love.
What is romantic love. That is more hormonal. It does come from beliefs of what is believed to be attractive or not. Romantic love is attraction, it is often sexual, there is a powerful desire to join with the other. It is a wonderful experience of oneness. If a person is feeling love they project it onto the other and they see nothing wrong with the other. They see them as perfect. They are just so happy and complete. They believe the other completes them. Yet what they don’t know is that because they have allowed love, they are experiencing their own love from within projecting out. It is they who chose to love the other. They may come to believe that the other is causing them love, but in truth they caused it. I have felt love walking behind a couple in love. I felt I was more in love. I laughed. I was in love with myself, my life, where I was in the moment, no resistance, no anger, no negativity, just a complete surrender to the moment. That was true love I realised. The joy just bubbles up. Sometimes romantic love can be used like a teddy bear, you want someone to give you comfort, to affirm you, to make you feel not alone in the world. I see it as nice, but I have been training myself to live without romancing the stone. What I mean by that is trying to change other stones into the shape I want. I would rather work on my own philosopher’s stone and reform myself into the shape that is my true contour.
We grow up in an insecure world where it seems there is great possibility for fear and loss. We need food, we need shelter, we need companionship, we need to have something to do. This is the contextual framework of life. What if – we just need to find peace within, to know we are part of a greater picture, to know that life doesn’t end at death (it goes on), that we are more than we know. Then can life become an adventure? Can life become expansive? Can our imagination takes us to places we’ve never been? Can we be open to possibilities without fear. I sense this is the love that expands endlessly and is completely fearless. Imagine living in this type of space. There have been humans on the earth who lived completely free, in a state of love, fearlessness, empowered by the sense of oneness with the whole of existence. Some that are becoming known are – Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, Peace Pilgrim (not in physical), Lao Tzu (ancient China) and many more. You may have to research to find them. They are fearless, they can appear magical, they join with all life, they are completely surrendered to life itself. In truth the individual doesn’t exist, they are one with it all. It is an extremely hard concept to grasp because it is not a concept. In truth it is life without a story, life with no limits, life that is completely harmless as it has no fear, it is true love.
You can check out Byron Katie at http://www.thework.com
Eckhart Tolle https://www.eckharttolle.com/
Love is our true nature when we stop thinking. It is the essence that creates worlds, universes and infinite possibilities, it is every person that has loved you and you have loved and even those you didn’t. The love energy permeates humanity and it connects us to the truth of ourselves. It is far more satisfying then romance or being loved. When you know you are love what is there to need or die for. You celebrate each breath, you drop the past, you drop the future, you just live in peace. What better love affair could you have, if you indeed exist at all.
Perhaps only love is real.
So I send love to you. I love you ‘I see you’. You are meant to be here, you have not failed, you are here to simply learn for better or worse, you are always choosing what you see next. When love is your choice you will know we live in a beautiful world.